Lift your head, baby, don’t be scared
Of the things that could go wrong along the way
You’ll get by with a smile
You can’t win at everything but you can try
Once you hit the ~magical~ age of 18– you all of a sudden feel like you’re forced to figure out where you’re going, who you’re going to be and what you’re going to do. The transition start to feel abrupt and before you know it, you’re bombarded with stress, anxiety and worry. Relax, take a deep breath, you’re okay.
No one has it all figured out either.
I wish I accepted that sooner than later. I’ve broken down and had felt lost, and still feel lost, many times. I still feel like time is chasing me, and I have to reach my goals and be successful by an “acceptable” age.
More often than not, I’m stuck stressing over things that only slow my progress. If there’s anything that I learned about living, it’s to take it one day at a time and enjoy the ride. Make everyday special and distinctively different from the previous one. Create a little magic everyday.
Often I get so caught up worrying about my progress, how everyone else is getting into their “desired faculties” and seem to have it figured out. Then I realize, well what the hell? Life is so stinkin’ short. I’m twenty and that’s already two decades gone. I better do something that makes me happy and stop worrying about not getting where I’m expected to be. Someone once told me not to compare my progress with my friends or the people around me, just keep at it at my own pace and I’ll make it happen. Nothing felt more easing.
Why am I settling for comfort? Why am I so scared to wander, and explore?
In spite of the realization, I still don’t know exactly what I want out of life, and that’s absolutely OKAY. The thought that I’m free to be what I want at any time in my life is all that I need. Maybe I won’t be a nurse all my life, maybe I’ll have plenty of career changes throughout my life– and perhaps that’s whats going to make me the happiest. I’m just gonna live, and if I fall in love with something and feel like it will bring me peace and happiness, then that’s where I’m going.
You don’t have to know where you’re heading. You just have to keep walking forward. What’s the worst that could happen? I recently read a very relatable blog about hitting rock bottom and I couldn’t agree more on what was written. A soothing reminder that: If you fail and lose it all, there’s only one way to go and that’s back up. You can’t keep falling in the pit if you’ve reached rock bottom.
No matter where life takes us, know that in the end, you’ll always rise above. Take comfort in that.
Above, I quoted one of my favourite songs from a Filipino band called Eraserheads. I’ve known this song for years, but nothing like an hour bus ride to school to make me realize and really appreciate the lyrics of the song. It’s exceptionally beautiful and nothing more uplifting. It literally puts a smile on my face. Most of the time, all we really need is reassurance that we’ll be okay, no matter the hardships and adversity that come our way.
Don’t be scared of the things that could go wrong along the way. You’ll get by with a smile.
You can’t win at everything, but you can try. Gracefully learn to accept that nothing will ever go smoothly and we can’t always have what we want, but what matters is that we try. Don’t feel discouraged right away. Stop putting limitations upon yourself.
Baby, you don’t have to worry
‘Coz there ain’t no need to hurry
No one ever said that there’s an easy way
In a world where everybody
Hates a happy ending story
It’s a wonder love can make the world go round
But don’t let it bring you down
And turn your face into a frown
You’ll get along with a little prayer and a song.
Ultimately, you need to have faith and believe that no matter what happens, YOU’LL GET THERE. You’ll be where you’re supposed to be and you’ll make the decisions you’re supposed to make. Trust in yourself and hold on tight. You’ll get along with a little prayer and song 😉